Girl traps, part one (the attention spotlight)

girlYou’re a good girl by society’s standards: Decent grades, respectable friends. You’re a Godly girl by the church’s standards: Mission trips, youth choir. No struggles with the enemy, right? He knows you’re solid, steady, unstoppable.

But are you sure you’re untrap-able?

I recently spoke with a group of Christian teens—sweet girls, typical girls—and they shared some easy-to-fall-for traps. One in particular, a lie from the evil one, seemed especially sneaky: “Getting noticed increases my value.”

Interesting. I asked them how today’s girls—even good girls, sometimes—get  noticed. Here’s what they’ve seen (and not necessarily done, mind you):

  • “Post photos on Instagram that show your body. Then wait for ‘likes’ and comments.”
  • “Make sure no one forgets you’re there: Laugh loudly, tell a juicy story, tease people, flirt with all the boys.”
  • “Play dumb. Everyone will want you around because it’s funny. Also, you can get away with stuff if you act clueless.”

I told you they were honest. 🙂 Next I asked why attention-seeking matters:  “Well, girls think they’re worth more when boys notice,” they said. “And girls think they’re worth more when other girls are jealous,” they said.

“Dear Lord, help us,” I said. “Stupid, crippling trap….”

So let’s dismantle it. First, though, remember this: It’s not sinful to want to matter. Psalm 139:14 says you’re worth noticing. And the Father sees your tender heart. But the evil one twists things, taking your desires and perverting them. Thus, the tricky trap.

Here’s the Truth that Satan wants to camouflage:

  • Getting noticed doesn’t increase value. It feeds your insecurity. Oh, the stress of wondering what “they” want next. Or competing with a girl who’s funnier, skinnier, flirtier. You can’t win (no one can), and Satan knows it. He simply wants you tangled up in a self-esteem nightmare.
  • Getting noticed doesn’t increase value. It compromises your influence. It’s confusing, not compelling, to see believers crowd God’s spotlight (especially if the spotlight shows cleavage). Friends aren’t sure what to think when it’s all about you. What they do know, however, it’s that it’s not about Jesus.

Please don’t fall for it, worthy daughters; instead, stand on safe, solid ground. How? Ask for sharp eyes to see the traps. Then ask God for strength to avoid them. I promise, He’ll be attentive; He always is: “[I prayed], ‘Pull me out of the net that is hidden for me, for You are my refuge’” (Psalm 31:4).


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6 thoughts on “Girl traps, part one (the attention spotlight)

  1. Ashley Schichler says:

    Thank you for this! I have been struggling with this for some time. It really put it into perspective for me! God bless!

  2. worthydaughters says:

    Ashley, I appreciate your feedback! God is so good to give us just the right words we need. I pray you see this blog post as His sweet encouragement to your precious heart. ~Ava Sturgeon

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