Heart strings

That was unusual! And very, very refreshing. After years of counseling girls about boys—you name it, we’ve discussed it—I got my first ever email like this, from Chrissie. Just wait till you read her words:

Mrs. Ava, I’ve been dating this guy. It started off great, but recently I’ve strayed from God. Bottom line, my boyfriend has been the priority. Lately, though, all I want to do is live for Christ. I want Him to be the center of everything. Can I have two priorities if I’m pulled in different directions?”

So, readers, how impressed are you with Chrissie? I was blown away by her maturity. More often than not, a “boyfriend vs. faith” dilemma goes like this: “Mrs. Ava, I know the right thing to do, but right now I’m not gonna do it.” Maybe not these words exactly, but it’s usually obvious she’ll choose Prince Charming over the Prince of Peace. And it breaks my heart.

But not Chrissie. I replied with a question, one I always pose when teens ask for guidance: “Have you prayed about it?”

Her answer came within seconds:

“I’ve been praying for days! My commitment to God is way more important than a boyfriend. And the more I pray, the more I see that Christ seems distant when I’m with Jake. I don’t think I can juggle both and please the Lord.”

Reading this, my eyes filled with tears. “Father, she loves you so,” I prayed. “Whisper truth into her ear. Show her the blessings of obedience. Surround her with your reassuring presence.”

This decision—if she made the correct one—would be painful. I know. I’ve been there.

Hours later, a final email came:

“Mrs. Ava, we broke up. I knew it was the right thing to do.”

Well, that was that. No wishy-washy, drawn out drama. No justification for hanging on. Just clear-cut acceptance of God’s direction, then acting on it: “We broke up. It was the right thing to do.”

If you’re reading this, sweet Chrissie, I’m bursting with pride at your courage! Wise decisions aren’t always easy, and many times they sting. But you’ll be okay, I promise. And everyone who’s reading this with me is nodding her head in agreement. We have a good feeling about you, sister. 🙂 Just keeping clinging to the Father, the One who’s always worth it.

 “God is the healer of the brokenhearted. He is the one who bandages their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).


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One thought on “Heart strings

  1. Hannah says:

    I wish it were this easy in my life! Before, I’ve had relationships where I knew God was not a priority, so I knew it needed to end. But right now, my best friend and I are at a point where we feel like God is drawing us into each other ridiculously. And whenever we’re together, there’s massive amounts of Jesus. Aaaand we very much like each other.And we don’t want to date unless it is 100% God’s plan, because we never wanna put God on the back burner. Sooo, we’re fasting from each other next week and just praying. I really hope we hear God clearly… just saying.

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